your 5 most worrying baby potty training problems answered.
Q1. I’m at my Witt’s end my daughter will be 3 next week and will not go on the potty or toilet what can I do I’ve tried many times and she starts nursery soon and have to be toilet trained please help Cheeky Chums.
A1. make an A4 paper with her name on saying Jessica .I wear big pants now. put a picture of a potty or toilet on the front and makes some squares to place a sticker in.get a pack of reward stickers from a supermarket if u can find her favourite character ie Fifi,peppa Pig works wonders!. tell her she can have a sticker if she goes on the toilet wearing her big pants too no more nappies except pull ups at bedtime.She gets a sticker for the toilet and if she cant make it and goes on potty instead she also gets a sticker. When its full she gets a big prize. She may want the stickers and not a big prize but just ignore her. Put the chart on the bathroom door with blue tac.if she misses wets her pants and will not go just stands there then no sticker at all.Do not ball and shout at her just put fresh knicks and and ignore it. stick to your guns and voila in a day or so she will be toilet trained if you follow through. It wont take long now because she is older than a baby would say at 12 months plus.
Q.2. My son is two and manages to go on toilet but does nothing as yet what shall I do.
A.2.Watch him every time he goes give him lots of praise for the first wee and watch his little face light up in happiness. He will soon get the hang of it the first wee is the hardest as they learn to control their bladder.he may look down in the toilet or potty as he realises the first wee is coming this is when you have to praise him as it will be the most remembered.Then its easy from here.
Q3. my son screams and won’t sit down on the potty help he is 2 and a half.
try to let daddy go with him, get a child step and a toddler toilet seat so he can stand up like daddy does on his own step forget the potty he can always use this later as he overcomes his fear. At first only let him sit on toilet for a few seconds even if he screams here too.Ignore a scream say yeah and oh dear no wee wee yet lets try again afterwards . take him away .then let him try again in afternoon for 1 minute say yeah and oh no wee wee yet lets try again afterwards and so on longer each time you go. Its not the fact that he has to do the wee first but its to overcome the fear of sitting on a toilet.After a few persistent attempts at sitting he will no longer scream for you.
Q 4 Which is best my mum says knickers and i say she should wear pull ups which should i use both.
Form 25 years experience at toilet training toddlers this works best.When you are going to start have a plan…
- not when moving house
- not when too many changes are happening ie starting nursery
- not when a new baby sibling has just been born
- Buy loads of cheap cotton knicks or boys underpants not expensive so you Can throw a spoiled pair away on trips out.The reason i say knicks or underpants is this a child needs to know what it feels like to be wet. As a Pull up absorbs the fluid its taken away from direct skin contact. When cotton ones are worn a child learns that oh this feels uncomfortable when he or she has had an accident in them so is more likely to us the toilet just like a big person would ie mummy or daddy.
- A child running around cannot tell they are wet in a pull-up so would just carry one playing not knowing any difference.
- Ditch the nappies one day and use pull ups just for bedtime so a start is a stat and you don’t go backwards in toilet training.
Q5. My child is terrified and wont do a poo in the toilet he jumps off then waits to have a nappy back on hiding behind the sofa when no one can see him and does it there.
A.5.give set meal times over a few days and see when he does do a poo. time it about right and let him sit him toilet with a big boy book one which he gets only if he sits on toilet for quite a little longer than normal.Stand outside the door waiting and say shall i stay here until you are finished darling and respect his privacy. stay there and help him use toilet roll afterwards. increase the length of time as he starts to sit longer for you.Give him a pack of big boy bum wipes as a special treat just for him to use at the side of the toilet for his bum all nice and clean .